Salam semua...
Daring tak tajuk entry kali ni? Hehehe, bukan apa.... pagi tadi, listening to Hot FM, topik is about "Kisah Ibu Mertua". Banyak la komen2 diberi oleh pendengar yang membuatkan i tersenyum je sepanjang jalan.
Memang diakui, hubungan ibu mertua dan menantu tak selalunya indah. Just like hubungan kita dgn suami. Bak kata P. Ramlee, sedangkan lidah lagikan tergigit. Menerima dan menyesuaikan diri dengan orang yang baru, memerlukan masa dan kesabaran. Kita kena belajar tabiat, mengubah tabiat, mengambil hati, jangan cepat terasa hati, and few other things. As for me, Alhamdulillah... hubungan dengan ibu mertua bolehlah dikatakan ok, walaupun di awal2 perkahwinan, i doubt that my mother in law likes me. This is due to few reasons...
The first time i met my MIL was on 3rd raya, the first year we were couple. Masa ni, nervous jangan cakapla... menggigil kepala lutut. My husband bukan saja bawak mak dia, tapi SELURUH adik beradiknya, penuh rumah. My husband ada 6 orang beradik, and he's the youngest, all all of his brothers and sisters alreay married except for a sister. So, just imagine, how to make the best impression in front of your future family in law. In addition, my MIL tak bercakap banyak, masam mukanya and ada few times, i caught her, starring at me.... so, i was wondering, orang tua ni tak sukakan aku ke... tak lawa kot aku ni... and few other things... It was the first time i met her
Second time, was on the day my best friend during my days at MRSM BP, wanie got married, location Teluk Intan. Since the distance between Teluk Intan and Sabak Bernam (husband's hometown) too only 30mins drive, he decided to bring me to his house, right after kenduri. Masa ni, lagi la menggelabah since there will only be me, my husband, and her. Ditambah pulak dengan pengalaman pertama met her yang tak berapa memberansangkan tu, creating all kind of feelings.... In contrast, the 2nd day i met her was quite ok actually. we did a lot of talking, some jokes
And everything was going smooth until a week after our marriage. During kenduri menyambut menantu, di bilik pengantin yang dihias indah....romantik, hehehe my MIL were sleeping with us... kalau korang, macam mana?
To make things worst, on our second day of honeymoon, in langkawi, my husband received a phone call from his mother. Terkejut tak korang kalau, di saat2 indah dan manisnya mengecapi bulan madu, just the two of you... tiba2 ur MIL called and bgtau dia dah sampai jeti langkawi, and minta kami menjemput dia. Kalau korang macam mana????? Masa tu rasa nak marah sangat2, mood terus down, rasa mcm masa tu jugak nak balik, tak payah honeymoon semua. And that was the first time, me and my husband had our first fight as husband and wife, walaupun pada hakikatnya, my husband is not the person to be blame..."Bukan i yang ajak mak, bukan i yang suruh dia datang, i pun tak tahu rancangan dia, kenapa you nak marah i???", kata suamiku. Memang betul, but then, takkan nak marah my MIL kan, so i lepaskan marah pada my husband la... So our honeymonn ditemani oleh ibu mertua kesayanganku. Thank god that she was with few friends, staying jauuuhh dari hotel kami and my husband came out ith a bright idea that we already dalam pakej lawatan oleh pihak hotel, that we cannot join them. Fuuuhh... terlepas, but still, one incident, one of the night, my MIL called, saying that dia dah ada di lobi hotel kami and Tuhan menyebelahi kami, they went to the wrong one ;p we were staying at Langkasuka Beach Resot, they went to Hotel Langkasuka... itu la pengalaman bulan madu ku...
My MIL suka SANGAT datang ke rumah kami, compared to rumah adik beradik lain.... and kalau dia datang, hujung minggu je mesti sibuk2 nak ajak SEMUA anak2 di berkumpul kat rumah kami. Dan at te end of the day, yang tetuk buat kerja, yang penat segala, would definately be me. Dan mula la episod nak bergaduh kami laki bini. I know, its not my hubby's fault, tapi bila badan dah penat, hati jadi cepat marah, dan terpaksa la lepaskan pada my husband.... kesian abang....
BUT.........
Despite that, as time goes by, i learnt to get to know her better....
I learnt that, we cannot compare btwn our own mother and our MIL, tak sama
Kegemaran kita tak sama
Tabiat kita tak sama
Cara memasak kita tak sama
Channel tv kegemaran kita tak sama
cuma satu yang sama....
Kita sayang orang yang SAMA.... Ahmad Fairuz b. Mohd Yusof :)
I learn that, bila saja rasa down, ingatkan kembali, jasa ibu mertua kita , melahirkan dan membesarkan suami kita, kerana di atas jasanya, besar suami kita tu, dapat kawin dengan kita :P
DAN....
selepas 2 tahun dan 7++bulan perkahwinan kami, Alhamdulillah.... hubungan yang terjalin bertmbah baik....
My MIL tahu my fav food, and selalu masakkan my fav food, instead of her own son's
My MIL tahu warna kegemaran ku, compared to her other menantu (she bought maroon jubah for me, balik dari Mekah...menantu lain, pilih warna masing2)
My MIL suka datang my house, sebab dia selesa with me, its a credit for me, right... even when my husband was not around for two month, she was staying with me, for a month....
So for me, keserasian antara dua individu, bukan dapat dikecapi sehari, it needs time dan kesabaran.... InsyaAllah
Now, she's currently not feeling very well, dah mula cakap yang merepek2 tentang mati...saki dan dll. Sebab sayang la, last week, rabu kami ambil cuti, balik sabak dan temankan dia yang sedang down sangat sebab dah nak kena mula dialisis
Dan sebab sayang jugakla, belum sempat kering peluh baru sampai, i masakkan makanan kegemarannya, masakkan bubur kacang yang dimintanya. Semoga dia lebih sihat nanti....
us.....
